It. Is. A. Duck.

Pretending can be bad for our health

If there is one skill-set I could pass on for sure to anyone who trains with me and/or who engages me as a facilitator, it would be this:  Be brave and see what you are seeing.

      Don’t white wash.

      Don’t reframe.

      Don’t colorize.

      Don’t delude yourself.

      Don’t go along with a lie to be nice.

      Don’t pretend everything was alright.

Until what IS is viewed AS IT IS, it retains its power.

Torture, slavery, betrayals, physical abuse, sexual abuse, delusional behavior, ridiculous lies, meanness, disrespect, harm, and other types of evil are a fact of life on this planet. An important attitude to cultivate is that of being matter of fact about matters of fact.  This isn’t to say that one shouldn’t advocate with outrage and passion, but to help someone who is oppressed by or caught in these behaviors, you have to view the shadow without flinching in order for the person you are helping to do the same.
Another one of my usual instructions for those I train: You need to develop comfort with discomfort.  Both your client’s and your own.  The session is getting interesting when the client demonstrates emotion and other signs of discomfort.  This means you are exactly where you need to be in order to facilitate a resolution.  Those of us who have done this work for awhile become internally excited when our clients are in high distress during this process.  It means that ‘we’ve got it’ and the relief will be equal to the distress demonstrated.

This is one more piece that makes Traditional Trauma Resolution very effective! Check back here for the link to the movie: What is Traditional Trauma Resolution?

Pura Vida,

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